Overview
This is a short story about removing anger that Deimos received via an email forward from his Dad. The original is in Mandarin, translated into English by Deimos.
Disclaimer Notice
Deimos did not author the story, he just produced the English translation.
消氣 – Removing Anger
古時有一個婦人，特別喜歡為一些瑣碎的小事生氣。她也知道自己這樣不好，便去求一位高僧為自己談禪說道，開闊心胸。
[Once a upon a time, there was a lady who likes to get angry over small trivial matters. She also knows this is not good, so she sought out a highly revered monk for consultation.]
高僧聽了她的講述，一言不發地把她領到一座禪房中，落鎖而去。
[After listening to her story, without saying anything he lead her to a meditation room, and left.]
婦人氣得跳腳大罵。罵了許久，高僧也不理會。婦人又開始哀求，高僧仍置若罔聞。婦人終于沈默了。高僧來到門 外，問她︰“你還生氣嗎？”
[The lady was furious and threw a fit. She continued for quite some time, but the monk did not bother with her. The lady start to beg again, he remained silent not doing anything. The lady finally became silent. Monk came to the door, asked her: “You still angry?”]
婦人說︰“我只為我自己生氣，我怎么會到這地方來受這份罪。”
[Lady said: “I am only angry with myself, how come I would come to this place to suffer this kind of sentence.”]
“連自己都不原諒的人怎么能心如止水？”高僧拂袖而去。
[“Can’t even forgive yourself, how to have a mind that is calm and still like water?” saying that the monk folded his sleeves and left.
過了一會兒，高僧又問她︰“還生氣嗎？”
[After a while, the monk asked her again: “Still angry?”]
“不生氣了。”婦人說。
[“Not angry anymore.” lady replied.
“為什麼？”
[“Why?”]
“氣也沒有辦法呀。”
[Angry also no use what.”]
“你的氣並未消逝，還壓在心裡，爆發后將會更加劇烈。”高僧又離開了。
[“Your anger is not gone yet, still suppressed within your heart, later exploded would be more critical.” the monk left again.]
高僧第三次來到門前，婦人告訴他︰“我不生氣了，因為不值得氣。”
[The monk came to the door for the third time, lady told him: “I am not angry anymore, because it is not worth it to get angry.”]
“還知道值不值得，可見心中還有衡量，還是有氣根。”高僧笑道。
[“Still know whether it is worthy to get angry or not, there is still doubts in your heart, still some anger roots.” the monk laughed.]
當高僧的身影迎著夕陽立在門外時，婦人問高僧︰“大師，什麼是氣？”
[When the shadow of the monk stood outside the door, the lady asked the monk: “Master, what is anger?”]
高僧將手中的茶水傾洒于地。婦人視之良久，頓悟。叩謝而去。
[The monk poured the glass of tea onto the floor. The lady looked at it for quite some time, then she understood it. Thanked the monk and left.]
何苦要氣？氣便是別人吐出而你卻接到口裡的那種東西，你吞下便會反胃，你不看他時，他便會消散了。
[Why get angry? Anger is the stuff that others exhaled and you received into your mouth, you will feel bad if you swallow it, when you cannot see it, it will be gone.]
氣是用別人的過錯來懲罰自己的蠢行。
[Anger is the stupid act of using other people’s fault to punish yourself.]
夕陽如金，皎月如銀，人生的福祉和快樂尚且享受不盡，那裡還有時間去氣呢？
[Time is precious, there is endless fortune and happiness to sought after in life, where got enough time to get angry?]
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Deimos gets angry very easily in the past, nowadays, he gets angry quite easily also if he lacks sufficient sleep. Must not get angry … easy to say, bloody hard to achieve …
Deimos Asks
Do you get angry easily?
11:06 am
kljs
said the following:
Wah….. you dad got some many kind of advises ah?….. nice!!!!
11:19 am
Deimos Tel`Arin
said the following:
@kljs:
He got a nice friend who keeps forwarding these stuffs. 🙂
12:10 pm
kljs
said the following:
honestly, getting angry really never does any good….. it only cause sorrow and problems…. I know… I was someone who get angry easily….. until I realize that my angry has cause lots of problems for my family, friends and myself…… I learn how to control it…. actually, it’s more like I learn how to live with it….. just that, I smile when I am angry…. that helps…. or something like that…… can’t really explain…..
1:04 pm
Michael
said the following:
I don’t get angry at all. It’s my personality.
1:24 pm
Deimos Tel`Arin
said the following:
@kljs:
You are bloody right about that! 😯
My relationship almost fell apart because of this anger thingie! ➡
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@Michael:
That is pretty amazing! No bubbles produced at all? 😮
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3:02 pm
bloggista
said the following:
I don’t angry at all (or very rarely). Even if you deleted my comment on the other post, I was laughing all the way. Hehehe. You’re lucky you got one cool dad. Better heed his advice, my friend. Smiling and laughing your adversaries and frustrations do make you stronger, spice up relationships and make your girlfriends proud. 🙂
3:46 pm
Deimos Tel`Arin
said the following:
@bloggista:
I deleted your comment on the other post? 😮
Which post? I do not recall deleting your comments. 😯
10:04 pm
joshuaun
said the following:
yo,thx for link bro!!!hahaaha 😈
11:58 pm
SiteHoppers
said the following:
Lol, Deimos, you are a philosopher too!
This is a great story, the BEST Deimos!
😀
2:12 am
- c H i E n -
said the following:
I guess it’s normal for people to get angry. Who doesn’t anyway? In fact I am really afraid of those who always tell you “it’s ok, it’s alright…” when you know when you have offended them. They are very scary. Because they are not straight forward towards their feelings. And you never know what they are thinking.
Don’t we always hear people saying that those who are the quietest are the scariest people?
So, I think if you get angry, show it, let people know but don’t go scolding people like mad or else they will hate you.
Well like me, I am very straight forward. If I am angry with my friend I just kinda raise my voice a little. But they accept me for the way I am. And they like it the fact that I won’t hide my feelings and honest so they know they are not being backstabbed. That’s nice you know. xD
3:07 pm
bloggista
said the following:
Hehe. It must have been lost in cyberspace and thought I have it submitted. It was about your d*ck sh*t meme tag. LOL.
1:01 am
Anna
said the following:
Anger is one of those things that I deal with through my son each day. Maybe I need to send him to the monk and get him some help so that he will realize that he doesn’t need to get angry over silly little things. Thank you for your condolences for the loss of my mother. God bless.
12:33 pm
Apple
said the following:
正如证严法师静思语中的”生气，就是拿别人的过错来惩罚自己。”
Nice translation.
Recently I get depressed or angry easily too. Maybe because I get hungry (cause on diet) or simply because PMS 💡
9:41 pm
Forever28
said the following:
Sometime, it is hard to control our temper. But now, I learn not simply angry on someone cos it harms myself. I just close my eyes and see nothing…
10:41 am
Vic
said the following:
I don’t usually get angry easily and I notice I got many quality friends. But, I also notice there are some friends who take this advantage because they know I won’t get angry easily.
11:59 am
Shanker Bakshi
said the following:
Good Post – In the past i used to get angry on so many things – by the time i have learned that nothing is as danger as getting angry and ruined which you have just build.
3:03 am
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